Why Law of Attraction Isn’t Working & 4 Ways To Fix It
I have met many finance-professional types who turn their noses up at manifestation principles, but I am not one of them! Law of Attraction (LOA) helps people become more spiritual about their money, and provides another perspective and set of tools to help people reach their financial goals more quickly, and more in alignment with their ideal lives.
When you’re using LOA correctly, it can give you a sense of peace and groundedness in even the toughest financial times. When you’re missing some of the principles, it can make you feel like a failure for not being able to manifest!
Law of Attraction Case Study
I recently experienced this with my friend Abby. A few weeks ago, Abby was frustrated over the slow business growth of her husband’s business. She’s not very interested in the business, but helps out a few hours a week until she discovers her ultimate passion. Abby felt stuck about how she can serve herself and at the same time, improve the family’s money situation. Abby was especially frustrated that her LOA work hadn’t brought greater results this year.
So I asked her: “You’re saying you want to feel like you have more financial stability, have greater peace of mind and know you have the cash flow to fund everything you want?” (Yes, yes and yes.) So I said, “GET A JOB.” (In the nicest way possible, of course!).
Abby voiced all of her objections to having a job—limited earning power, doesn’t like doing anything she is qualified for, etc. She was stuck; Abby focused on all of the things that she DIDN’T WANT in a job, and then she connected it all back to make it mean she couldn’t have financial prosperity or peace of mind unless and until she found that passion.
I see this situation a lot with people who work with Law of Attraction. They want something better for themselves, but they are still resisting the experience they currently have. You can’t manifest and resist at the same time, it just doesn’t work. You have to make peace with where you’re at FIRST, and then work to improve your experience.
Combine LOA With The Real World
The easiest way to start making money is to do something—anything. I compare this to exercising; when I was recovering from my broken ankle, I couldn’t do any “fun” activities for a LONG time. I could barely stand up straight because I was accustomed to balancing myself on my good leg! But physical therapy and walking (hobbling) helped me go on to do greater things.
I can use this analogy: I need to hike up this mountain. My first thoughts are that it’s going to be difficult, I am going to get all sweaty and look like a dork compared to those women over there in their lululemon outfits. My muscles will burn and I will trip, slip or get whacked in the face by a tree branch.
But I can’t just LOA my ass up the mountain. We’re all here for an earthly experience and that includes experimenting with your surroundings (money included). You can’t just sit on the sidelines and “energy” the money into existence; you have to DO something in alignment with that energy.
People mistakenly think that if it doesn’t feel good, you shouldn’t do it. Instead, LOA wants you to reframe—this thing is going to happen, it must happen (or you need it to happen), so how can you participate and feel good about it?
Reframe: I need to hike up this mountain, but I can do it in a way that brings me more pleasure … I can stop every 5 minutes or whenever I feel like it, take a drink of water and look around, and FEEL myself in the present moment. I can take the path that seems easiest to me. I can give myself a little pat on the back and pause to congratulate myself on doing something I would have been incapable of 3 years ago.
Four Concepts To Incorporate Into Your LOA Practice
Here are four thoughts to keep in mind when you’re feeling frustrated about your lack of manifestation results:
Resistance is futile. It sucks to be broke. I know this. I also know that when I was completely broke, I made the most spiritual progress of my life! I didn’t like being broke, but I loved how it magnified my appreciation of the things that were still working. I loved how it allowed me to notice miracles and shifts in perception. And I loved how much I grew to appreciate my own resourcefulness and self worth. The lesson worth repeating: You must stop resisting what you dislike about your current situation to move past it.
You have to BE in this world to reap the benefits of it. Spiritual practice is awesome, but I never experience miracles or connectedness until I interact with the physical world and people around me. I have even noticed that the more I incorporate play-time into my week, the more prospect calls I get! You might have the greatest energy in the world, but if you isolate yourself and limit your external experience, you’ll still be stuck.
Get off the sidelines and make a change. If you have been working with your energy, the money might need some kind of real-world receptacle to come into. You might need to change the energy you bring to your job. Or you might need to change your energetic scenery if nothing is moving, by taking a part-time job, volunteering or creating a side hustle. You never know what will connect you with your future business partner, or cause you to unlock a skill or opportunity you never realized existed for you.
Experimentation requires mistakes. People who want their outside world to be in alignment with their authentic selves sometimes believe that they need to wait for all conditions to be perfect before they can begin. If this were true, I wouldn’t be where I am today—I have been messing things up and getting things wrong for YEARS, well over a decade! But I am also closer to my ideal life than ever before. It’s a process.
Actions This Week
- Make a list of all of the things that currently annoy or worry you about your current life. This is everything you’re resisting.
- Reframe that resistance list. The place I like to begin is by asking myself, “How is this experience contributing to my personal growth?” and then find ways that you can be gentler with yourself during the growing process.
- Experiment. Look for ways to bring your LOA energy into the real world. Choose one thing to do differently and see how it makes you feel.
And in the comments below, tell me . . .
What’s your biggest energy challenge right now?
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