This is a guest post from my colleague and friend, Diana Dorell, a compassionate, super psychic coach and third-generation medicine woman healer who believes that you can create a five-star life of freedom, love and joy… on your own terms and regardless of what happened to you in the past.
As an intuitive relationship coach and master energy healer, I get asked all the time, “How can I create more of what I want with less effort? Why does it seem like I manifest money/a relationship and it seems to slip away almost as soon as it came in? What am I doing wrong and what can I do to change the stop-start pattern?
Money and relationships are both simply energy.
And learning a few simple secrets that hopefully after you read this, will eventually become daily habits, can help you turn the tide in your favor…and keep it there!
Here we go…are you ready?
#1 Know your why.
When my clients are trying to manifest a new relationship, one of the first things I ask them is to define why they want it. Sometimes they look at me like I have two heads as if to say, who wouldn’t want a relationship? But it goes deeper than that. If deep down, you want a relationship to validate your worth as a woman because you feel like you “should” be married by 40, that relationship is built on a very shaky foundation and eventually will end or be riled with resentment. If instead, you want a relationship because you truly want to share a life with someone and give love to another, start a family, etc, that is so much more powerful and potent.
And a relationship you create on those grounds is way more likely to stick around.
The same is true for your money. You may say you want X amount of dollars every month, but have you identified why you want that money? What are the desires that that money is designed to help you fulfill?
Five-star tip: Make a list of your why and if you’re stuck, start with naming your desires, even if they seem far-fetched. Give them a dollar amount. How much would it actually cost to take that African safari, hotel, food, and airfare plus extra fun stuff like massages, etc? Write it down. Once you know why you want money, money will be way more eager to come your way!
#2 Master your yin/yang!
Our world is made up of dualities. Yin and yang. Light and dark. Sun and moon. Up and down. Masculine and feminine. Both energies are important and when I say masculine/feminine, I am referring to energy vs gender. Masculine being the assertive, leader, directed energy that gets stuff done. And the feminine which is the receptive, visionary and primarily feeling-oriented energy that magnetizes the masculine.
When it comes to love, the most successful marriages and relationships are built when both partners are able to switch between both roles. One person leads, the other follows. And then it may flip. This is less about power struggle and more about balance.
The same goes for your relationship with money. To master your money, you must know your “why” (see #1) which is about creating a clear vision that helps you fulfill a desire or need (feminine) so that the masculine side of you knows how to manage your funds, direct them and make choices that support your vision. The feminine is also about receptivity, joy and FUN!
Are you having fun with your money or is it all work and no play?
Often times, I see people trying to reverse it. They learn tips, tools, how to balance a checkbook, etc (all very important but masculine-oriented tasks) ….but they have no foundation that is strong enough to help them sustain those practices.
They aren’t enjoying themselves with money. This could look like not paying themselves a livable salary if they are a business owner, only making money to pay the bills/basics and denying themselves the pleasure of investing in self-care (that class, that massage, that extra help around the house, etc).
Five star tip: Start with the feminine and then the masculine/CEO side of you can help you get what you want with your money.
#3 Give…and you will get.
It’s no secret that when you give, you receive as we discussed above with the Law of Duality.
In relationships, both in business and in your personal life, when you can focus on what you have to offer a partner vs. what a partner has to have or give you, you will magnetize someone who has a generous, loving spirit back to you (always a good sign of longevity!)
And money is no different. The ancients knew the law of tithing or the giving away of 10% of any income to a place that fed them spiritually.
But so often in our society, because of past programming, the way we grew up or just plain ole fear, it’s so easy to cling tightly to what money you have, either by hoarding it or overspending in a way that is reckless and lack-based.
Giving away a percentage of your money puts you in the energy of “more than enough.” It takes tremendous faith, that’s for sure. But the more you can step into that space of “The Universe always provides me with more than enough” the more that will start to show up in your environment. Maybe not right away. But as you practice self-less giving and sharing of your resources, it will come back to you from a channel you may have expected or one that you never could have expected.
Five-star tip: Stay detached from where it comes back to you and simply ask yourself, “Where have I been fed spiritually this month or this year or today?” Give whatever feels right and as your faith builds, you can give more (and get more!)
With practice, you will be well on your way to creating more consistent results in love and with your money! Start with the one tip that really resonated with you and then add on another.
Practice, practice, practice.
All my love,
Diana Dorell
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