Last week I started a new series devoted to exploring the relationship between your money energy and your traditional energy centers, or chakras. Check out the first post on your root chakra here, and don’t forget: you can sign up for my email list and get a free primer on chakras and your money.
This week we’re talking about the second chakra, your sacral chakra. Its position in the body is just behind and below your belly button and it’s associated with pleasure, sexuality, and creativity.
The sacral chakra has to do with partnership, creativity, and deserving — and we all know that there are a lot of money issues that can get tangled up with those topics. Confidence, the desire for wealth, and enjoying creature comforts are good expressions of this energy, while greed, selfishness, and fear can be the flip side.
Do you “deserve” your money?
When I’m working with clients, the instant I notice that someone has issues around whether or not they “deserve” the money they have (or want to ask for), I know they have energy issues around their sacral chakra.
I see this a lot with “trust fund babies,” or children of the wealthy who come into money through no action of their own. They often feel a great deal of guilt around that money, and put giving first. Or, even if you don’t have a trust fund, if you’re always putting others first and never spending (time, money) on yourself, it’s functionally the same thing.
Because the sacral chakra is the chakra of partnerships, it can also manifest as problems with money in relationships — he wants to spend, she wants to save or vice versa. Or when there’s tension in a relationship because you’re both working all the time to pay for your fancy lifestyle.
I also see this a lot with entrepreneurs who don’t charge what they’re worth, raise their rates, or go after the sale because they may not feel deserving of putting their needs ahead of someone else’s needs.
I myself had a problem with my sacral chakra energy for a while, though I didn’t immediately recognize it. I was doing all kinds of crazy things that felt like “giving” to me:
- Buying a house hoping it would bring my loved one and I closer
- Covering for happy hour drinks for my trainees multiple times per week
- Signing over my commissions to a colleague who was having a particularly hard month
- Paying for a friend’s divorce attorney
- Traveling around the country on my own dime to shadow a (crappy) mentor
- Giving away thousands of dollars to friends who “needed” my help
I was trying to fix everything (and everyone) around me, and my money was a tool on that quest. In fact, I was trying to exert control over the situation with my money — which was obviously never going to work.
It was a pattern of trying to get things from other people that I wasn’t giving to myself. That’s a huge imbalance in energy.
Changing your money mindset at the sacral level
If you think you might have an energy imbalance around this sacral level, ask yourself, how often do you put yourself first? Do you see that as selfish, or simply getting your needs met?
If you feel undeserving, or if you feel like you always need to put others’ needs ahead of your own, you might be trying exert control in other ways–to get back what you’re putting out there. You might notice:
- Having money spats with your partner? What are you (and they) really trying to control?
- If you’re more comfortable giving than receiving, what makes you feel out of control about receiving?
- If you don’t feel confident charging what you’re worth or raising your rates, are you trying to control whether people say yes or no?
Once you’ve identified the root cause, you can start to work to change it. Practice letting go of control and observing the abundance that flows into your life naturally. You could start keeping a list of times you feel abundant and prosperous.
Create a sacral chakra plan
We know that mindset plays a big part in how we approach money, but the only way you will change things is with a plan.
Write down the behaviors you would like to change and one action you can take toward changing them. If you feel guilty about spending money, treat yourself — even if it’s something small. If you are trying to control a situation with money, ask yourself if it’s even possible to control that thing. If you’re afraid of asking for more money, do it in baby steps: raise your rates by $25 the next time you get three paying clients.
Whatever it is, you need to take small steps toward the larger goal of getting that sacral energy of pleasure, creativity, and partnership flowing in your life again.
I highly encourage you to download the free Root Chakra lesson and learn more about how you can support both sides of your money — both the pragmatic side and the energetic side. Or for a limited time, you can download the entire self study program if you feel like doing a deep dive.
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