The 6 Ways Attachment Wastes Your Money

Attachment to outcome is the idea that a situation must play out in a certain way in the best interests of your life, relationship, business etc. People decide that there is only ONE solution and then become fixated on making that happen, regardless of obstacles or other data. When this happens, you’re not only ignoring…

Nine Steps to Cure Your Codependent Money Behavior

In previous posts, I’ve discussed how codependent money behavior can be confused for generosity toward other people—but that at its core, it’s a cover for not being personally fulfilled.  Codependent behavior is about fulfilling some arbitrary ideal situation, relationship or thing, and by trying to make things “perfect,” you forget what you actually want and value.  So…

Are You A Money Codependent?

There is a high correlation between codependency and money issues.  A “money codependent” really isn’t any different than a regular codependent; the term codependent describes the people who live with alcoholics or other addicts.  Codependents think they are responsible for everything that happens—including the behavior of the addict!  So in their minds, it’s really their fault when…

Fear and Anxiety Around Your Money

When you feel fear or anxiety around your money, it’s important to distinguish between the manufactured fear and anxiety your brain generates because of disappointment over your cash flow, portfolio or home value, versus the fear and anxiety you feel because you need to take (or avoid) action. People’s fear and anxiety become a constant inner monologue; reviewing…

Money and the Blame Game

Lots of people play the blame game with money—you blame the person who “owed” you because you worked so hard, or tolerated something else that you thought would bring a greater payoff—but whenever you play the blame game, you miss the opportunity to gain more power, control and peace over your money. And when you…

Shame and Money Secrets

Money secrets are some of the most shame-filled secrets we keep.  We’ve all heard that “the truth will set you free,” however, I believe that there are two kinds of money secrets we keep:  the ones we keep because it’s inconvenient to tell the truth and the ones we keep because we don’t want to…

How To Forgive Money Mistakes

Remembering and regretting money mistakes–instead of forgiving and forgetting–can actually hurt your efforts toward financial improvement. Anger is not a bad emotion; there are no bad emotions. However, when anger transitions from a physiological response into an ongoing grudge toward someone or something—or even toward yourself—it can destroy any progress you are trying to make…