For a lot of people, their heart and their bank accounts seem to exist in two completely different worlds. We’re admonished not to take things personally, not to let our emotions get the best of us, and not to trust our guts when it comes to matters of business or finances.
But the truth is, your heart is a major player in your financial energy.
In terms of energy, your heart chakra is in charge. Your heart generates a huge electromagnetic field in and around your body — much bigger than the brain’s. And while your brain may make logical decisions and weigh the options, your heart is your intuitive center, and your most powerful manifesting energy.
Your heart chakra is the energy center that creates deep bonds with other beings, your sense of caring and compassion, your feelings of self-love, altruism, generosity, kindness, and respect.
Interestingly, the heart chakra is also associated with the color green — the color of money! (At least in the U.S.!)
Your heart and heart chakra is meant to inspire you to do things for yourself — and to help empower those around you to do things for themselves.
But when your heart energy is blocked or too weak, these beneficial energies can get reversed or turned on their heads. Often people’s individual desires get confused with family or relationship desires. People with weak heart chakras will try to do everything for other people. But this backfires in a big way.
Defining your desires
One of my clients, Cindy, came to me, and I could instantly tell she wasn’t happy. It was as though she were living her life running on a hamster wheel. She and her husband couldn’t seem to come to a meeting of the minds about anything, and I could tell that she wasn’t happy being married. But she continued working hard, earning money, trying desperately to make things work.
Now, I don’t typically advise people on relationships–I’m trying to make the money work regardless of what is personally happening between two people. But she and I came to be friends, and one day she asked me outright what I thought her biggest issue was.
“Before I answer that, I want you to know that I think David (her husband) is awesome. This is nothing about anyone except you…but my opinion is, if you look into your heart of hearts, the secret thing you aren’t admitting to yourself is that I don’t think you want to be married.”
She thought about that for a minute and then said, “Oh. My. God.”
We talked about it some more, and for whatever reason, she realized that she always felt like she had to hide who she really was (again, not her husband’s fault). For whatever reason, she kept herself locked away, never really expressing who she was and what she wanted.
It wasn’t until they got a divorce that she felt free. Now, she is in such a better place, happier and more prosperous, because she’s no longer denying herself in the name of trying to make things work. And financially, things started really taking off for her.
This is a classic example of getting one’s individual desires mixed up with the desires of others. If you find yourself working all the time to make more money, but that money then flows out to other people rather than yourself or your own desires, you almost certainly have an imbalance in your heart chakra energy.
I see this is very common with women. We’re naturally suited to be caretakers, but we often take care of others to the detriment of ourselves. While we might give everything we have to help and take care of others, we totally neglect our self-care.
Blocked heart chakra energy can also have to do with your social identity and how that relates to your desires. This is the “keeping up with the Joneses” problem. If you think you should want certain things — a fancy car, a bigger home, designer shoes — but what you really desire is something else entirely, like deeper connection, more love, or spiritual connectedness, no amount of money will ever make you happy.
It’s all about figuring out what your individual desires truly are — and then working to meet them.
Changing your money mindset at the heart level
If you think you might have money issues at the heart chakra level, a conscious spending plan may be the perfect way to start to unblock.
The first step I usually ask people to take is to declare their chief money initiative for the year: in other words, what’s the one desire you want to focus on for the next year?
Once you’ve identified that desire, it’s easier to bring your money and spending decisions into line with what you really want.
If you’re having trouble separating your desires from the desires of those around you, ask yourself some of these questions:
- What do you crave?
- If money was no issue, what would you do? Would you spend or save? What would you be, buy, or do?
- What do you feel like you have to do? Where do you feel pressure when it comes to money?
- Who depends on you financially? Is it appropriate (say, a young child) or are you disempowering them by helping them too much?
Because other people are often involved when it comes to heart chakra money problems, these can be some of the stickiest and thorniest to resolve. If you’ve been supporting someone financially (whether it’s beneficial to that person or not) and decide to make a change, it can cause a lot of drama and strife.
Still, I believe the benefits are worth the risks when it comes to disentangling yourself from the desires of others and discovering your own true desires.
Of course, if philanthropy is one of your deep individual desires, nothing precludes you from giving to others! Many people gain deep satisfaction and meaning from giving financially to people and causes that move them.
Just make sure you’re separating your desires from the desires of others to maintain healthy heart chakra energy.
If this sort of money/energy talk intrigues you, I highly encourage you to download the free Root Chakra lesson from my Money Boss program and learn more about how you can support both sides of your money — both the pragmatic side and the energetic side. Or for a limited time, you can download the entire self study program if you feel like doing a deep dive.
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