This week’s post is by Diana Dorell, Intuitive Relationship Coach. Diana comes from a long line of medicine women/psychic healers from Colombia and Venezuela and when I need a little grounding, energetic release and/or reminder of my higher self, I call on Diana. You can read more about Diana at www.DianaDorell.com
Do you have trouble making decisions in your relationships, especially your relationship with money?
You’re not alone!
The truth is that it’s easy to be influenced by what you feel other people want for you, family influences and of course, the media. When it comes down to the wire, you may know exactly what you want to do, but be afraid of making the wrong decision, especially if it seems to go against the grain or logic. How do you trust YOURSELF when it comes to a big decision about where to invest your money, whether or not to continue a friendship that has gone stale or what could be holding you back from attracting a solid relationship?
The good news is that decision-making is a skill that can be honed. It all comes down to one little word: INTUITION.
When you trust your intuition, decision-making becomes less about what’s “right or wrong,” “black or white” and more about what feels EXPANSIVE. From this place of expansion, your logical mind quiets and your blood pressure lowers. You have less anxiety and more mental and emotional clarity about your situation.
So, you make ask, “That’s great Diana. But how do I start to do that? How do you even begin to trust your intuition?”
(I know you action-takers want something you can DO. Like right now. In between your crazy to-do lists and multi-tasking!) It’s easier than you think but it takes practice.
Intuition-Building Actions and Your Question:
Once you have a situation you’d like to get more clarity on, follow these steps:
Step 1: Write out all the different options you feel you have in statement, as if they were already true (even if they contradict each other).
Keep emotion out of it. This is a place where it’s great to use your logical mind to think out all possible scenarios. Do this until you feel like you’ve emptied out your head.
Example: If your situation is about whether or not to leave your current bank, you could write down…
- Option 1: I will stay at my current bank.
- Option 2: I will stay at my current bank if X Y Z issues are cleared up.
- Option 3: I will change banks.
Step 2: Get Grounded
This just simply means “get out of your head!” To tap into your intuition, you have to tune into the subtle frequencies that you can’t hear or feel if you’re up in your head. You don’t need to meditate for an hour to get grounded. Simply choose an activity that activates your physical body. Some of my favorite and quick ways to get grounded include: going for a short 5 minute walk around my block, putting my feet in some grass or breathing deeply 3 times with my eyes closed.
Your Grounding Activity: Fill in the blank __________________
Step 3: Ask the Question
After you’ve gotten grounded and you’ve created a distraction-free zone, read each statement you made in Step One aloud and ask:
“Does this option feel EXPANSIVE or CONTRACTIVE or both?”
Listen to the first answer that comes, without judging it.
Pay attention to your body, any sounds you hear, any visual images that come up or any thoughts that come quickly. We each tune into our intuitive channels in different ways.
If you get “Expansive” then that’s a good sign that your intuition is agreeing with you! If you get “Contractive,” it’s likely that you could run into snags with that choice and if you get “both,” there may be questions you need to ask of those involved to get more information. Once you do that, take it through the test again and see what you get!
Using this simple 3-step process, you’ll be well on your way to strengthening your intuition and making smarter decisions about your finances and your relationships!
Actions This Week:
- This week, pick one situation to take through the 3-step Intuition Process!
- In the comments, post your thoughts to this question: “What is one specific area of your life where you are ready to feel more EXPANSIVE? Why?”
Tell us! There’s no greater action than declaring it in the community as everything is energy!
To learn more about Diana and get a free gift, “Top 5 Spiritual Secrets To Un-blocking Your Love Life” visit www.DianaDorell.com