Nine Steps to Cure Your Codependent Money Behavior

In previous posts, I’ve discussed how codependent money behavior can be confused for generosity toward other people—but that at its core, it’s a cover for not being personally fulfilled.  Codependent behavior is about fulfilling some arbitrary ideal situation, relationship or thing, and by trying to make things “perfect,” you forget what you actually want and value.  So…

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Are You A Money Codependent?

There is a high correlation between codependency and money issues.  A “money codependent” really isn’t any different than a regular codependent; the term codependent describes the people who live with alcoholics or other addicts.  Codependents think they are responsible for everything that happens—including the behavior of the addict!  So in their minds, it’s really their fault when…

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Should You Stay In A Controlling Relationship?

When you’re having relationship or money issues it’s often a mask for controlling behavior. However, in spite of the negative connotations of “controlling,” there is nothing wrong with maintaining a relationship with a controlling person. Or maybe the term is, recovering controlling person—a controlling person willing to work on their issues. Not All Control Freaks…

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Regrouping Is Part of The Process

Setting goals and planning for success is easy. It’s FUN to imagine what the world will look like when you reach your goals. Yet many of us—me included—tend to become short-sighted over what happens when your plan is NOT working. Instead of regrouping as part of the planning process, we tend to abandon it altogether.…

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Why Downtime Is Essential To Money Peace

For a lot of people who work hard for their money, they see downtime as a luxury they can’t afford. Downtime is frivolous. Downtime isn’t goal driven. Downtime might even be a detriment to your “status,” because successful people are perceived as being very busy. The past several years, many people have had ENFORCED downtime—it’s…

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Four Simple Steps To More Conscious Spending

Budgeting is a lot like dieting—it might yield some immediate support, but actually prevent us from succeeding in the long-term. Why? Because budgeting prevents us from reaching the ultimate goal of spending consciously. The Problem With Budgeting Budgets can be very motivating when you think you’re makingchanges that will increase cash flow immediately. The problem,…

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